I have had a tumultuous couple of weeks and thought, I know, I will write something lighter. That sounds fun! Well, what comes up when I start to think this: Anger, frustration and downright crankiness about everything that is going on. I feel angry! That’s not light and I want to be light and have fun. I want to feel some joy in my life RIGHT NOW!!
As you can imagine, this attitude did not accomplish my set goal. Things just seemed to get harder. I wanted to clean my juicer (yes because it was so dusty from misuse), and I completely ran out of dish detergent. I decided to do my hair a bit nicer because I was visiting with friends later and, to my eyes, it looked the same after fifteen minutes of curling. Then, I finally turned on the computer to write and every keystroke resulted in a dinging noise versus a letter. What was happening here?
Thankfully I actually knew what was happening and, once the keyboard sorted itself out, began typing this blog post. It may not be the light, fun post I had in mind but boy did I learn something here. You definitely cannot force the lightness. Certainly, getting angry or desperately longing for things to go well or to be fun, or to let go of the sadness and guilt did not work. So how the heck do I get out of this funk?
Really the only way is to change your vibration from one of struggle and lack to one of ease and deserving. Here are some ways that I use to get out of a negative spiral of thinking:
- Move my body—research has shown that exercise helps people with depression and anxiety, sometimes more than medication.
- Listen to some uplifting music—choose something that makes you feel like dancing, no matter how much you want to wallow in the “He left me blues.”
- Talk to someone—sometimes you just need and ear. But, be careful not to get into a complaining jag, this will only prolong your suffering. Get it out and move on—maybe by trying another one of the methods I have given here. Oh, and make sure you talk to someone who cares and lifts you up, not someone who will intensify your low feelings.
- Write it out—let it all out on paper. Don’t censor yourself, just let go and write whatever you are feeling and dealing with at the time. Then, if you really don’t want to keep this memory of your yucky feelings, burn it (but only if you can do this safely away from any flammable items—use your common sense).
- Be thankful—write down at least 10 things you are grateful for, even if it is as simple as, “I am thankful for the air that I breathe,” or “I am grateful for my bed, running water, my big toe . . .” anything you can think of. You cannot be both truly grateful and negative at the same time.
- Eat some healthy protein—it grounds you and helps you to look at things from a more balanced point of view.
- Meditate—even for a few minutes. Meditation can calm your fight, flight and freeze response, especially if done daily. Then you are better able to deal with whatever comes your way.
- Use Energy Medicine or Energy Psychology practices—check out Donna Eden’s website for resources on both Energy Medicine and Energy Psychology: innersource.com or search YouTube for both Energy Medicine videos or EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique—a type of Energy Psychology developed by Gary Craig)videos. These techniques help me on a daily basis to stay more level and happy.
Mostly, the best way to find your way out of struggle, lack, victimhood and a pissy mood is through love. Love yourself; accept where you are and what you are feeling without all of the judgement. The truth is you are so much more than all of this. Remember that all of this is temporary and that you deserve to have joy and peace in your life!
Much Love,
Peace Goddess